Today's society believes that
sex is an idea that they have perfected, that sex outside of marriage is a must:
that they deserve to have any type of sexual contact with whomever they want,
when they want and how they want. Sex and love have nothing to do with one
another, other than this, where there is no love, sex is pleasureless.
But that is not how God designed sex, sexual contact is designed and can only
be fulfilled to the fullest extent of pleasure within the confines of marriage.
Marriage as God designed it, not as mankind thinks, but only between a man and a woman,
period.
A Godly marriage goes beyond this, a Godly marriage is just as it sounds,
simple enough: God first then a man and a woman,marriage is sacred, so much so that the Bible tells men that they are to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Once we see each other through
the eyes of our Creator, we will love each other greater, and the full
experience of a Godly marriage will start to take place, now do not get me
wrong, your marriage will not be perfect, you will still have disagreements,
and disappointments, not because God fails, but because we fail. This goes back
to Adam and Eve, and our sinful, selfish nature. I want to add this, when conflict arises get over
yourself quick, and move on when this happens, focus your heart and eyes on
Jesus and your problems will become less bothersome, in the light of eternity
with Him.
Here is what the world misses, sex without love is nothing more than a little selfish
pleasure coming to light, and foolishly we miss the greatest pleasure of all. It is like eating a package of stale crackers, when a fully cooked steak is right there in front of you, why would we sell ourselves short?
Love without God is impossible,
for He alone is the author and creator of Love, and only through the guidance
of the Holy Spirit will we experience the greatest love of all.
If your lost in the world and have been trapped in a life that makes you
believe having sex with someone will make them love you, STOP...this is a lie
and will never come to be.
*What you need to do first is come to Jesus, He alone will love you where you
are, as you are, and He will make you new, He alone has that power.
**Second you need to find a Bible
believing and teaching Church that will disciple you and help you grow in your
relationship with Jesus.
Third start praying and asking Jesus to lead you to a woman or man of His
choosing and ask others to start praying with you and for you, be listening to
the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
Love is out there, it is not found in bondage, or sexual contact with another
person, love is found only through God our Father, His Son Jesus Christ and the
Holy Spirit. When you read through the Holy Bible, you see how God describes
love.
God's shade of love was written in
red through the blood of Jesus Christ, on an old rugged cross.
In marriage this love must always be put into action:1
Corinthians 13:4-8, 13 Love is
patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It
does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not
rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things,
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As
for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for
knowledge, it will pass away. 13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these
three; but the greatest of these is love.
God's love in us, causes us to go further than we could without Him.Matthew 5:43-48 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You
shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your
enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of
your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the
good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those
who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the
same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others?
Do not even the Gentiles do the same? You therefore must be perfect, as
your heavenly Father is perfect.
Ultimately we must come to the end of ourselves and submit to Christ authority. Matthew
6:24-25 “No one can serve two masters, for either he will
hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise
the other. You cannot serve God and money. “Therefore I tell you, do not
be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about
your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more
than clothing?
When we do what Jesus has said we will love deeper and greater than ever before. Mark 12:28-31 And one
of the scribes came up and heard them disputing with one another, and seeing
that he answered them well, asked him, “Which commandment is the most important
of all?” Jesus answered, “The most important is, ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our
God, the Lord is one. And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart
and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as
yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
How much God loves us. John 3:16 “For God so
loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should
not perish but have eternal life.
How we should be known .John 13:34-35 “A new commandment I give to you,
that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one
another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have
love for one another.”
How we are to live. John 14:21-24 Whoever
has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me
will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him.”
Judas (not Iscariot) said to him, “Lord, how is it that you will manifest
yourself to us, and not to the world?” Jesus answered him, “If anyone
loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come
to him and make our home with him. Whoever does not love me does not keep my
words. And the word that you hear is not mine but the Father’s who sent me.
Jesus gave His all so you and I can love. John 15:9-17 As the Father has loved me, so have I loved
you. Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love,
just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These
things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may
be full. “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved
you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his
friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call
you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I
have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made
known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you
should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you
ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. These things I command you,
so that you will love one another
Before we knew Jesus, God showed His love for us. Romans 5:8 but God shows
his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Nothing can take us away from the love of God. Romans
8:37-39 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors
through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels
nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor
depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the
love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
True love is without hypocrisy. Romans 12:9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to
what is good.
Love is not prideful, but humble and helpful. Ephesians
4:2-3 with all
humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager
to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
Once we love sacrificially we start to live. Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved
the church and gave himself up for her,
.
Love is filled with forgiveness.1 Peter 4:8 “Above all, keep loving one another
earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”
God has done it all, and loves us more than we can know. 1 John 3:1 See
what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children
of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did
not know him.
Love is more than words.1 John 3:18 Little
children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.
Love is from God and can only be truly experienced through Him.1 John 4:7 Beloved, let us love
one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and
knows God
Love is always without fear, for Love is selfless. 1 John 4:18-19 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out
fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been
perfected in love. We love because he first loved us.
In the ESV Bible, Love appears 551 times in 505 verses, you see Love is a gift from God, sex is a pleasure given to us from God. That He made for man and woman, the devil ,has perverted sexual pleasures and uses it against mankind. We have a warped sense of pleasure because our hearts are far from God, men and women view pornography and it affects the way we see each other, how we respond to each other. A pornographic view of sex does nothing more than put performance issues on both people, in which neither will ever be able to achieve, this view leads to broken relationships, inside and outside the marriage bedroom pornography perverts love and makes it a sexual act.
If you have not ever had sex outside of marriage I urge you to hold out until God brings you into a marriage relationship, if you have already experienced sex outside of marriage , you can stop and hold out for your mate and wait on God, first you need to repent. read Psalm 51 and pray what King David prayed, only search yourself and pray this, otherwise they are just words if your not humble and repentant these words mean nothing.
If your marriage is in a free fall, may I boldly say stop looking to each other and turn to God, He
knows what is going on, ask for His help, His healing, for this to work both parties must take responsibility for their actions and come before God, humble and repentant, and be willing to seek Him first over their own desires and that of their spouse you must be willing to let God work in every area of your lives, there is always more than one issue going on, God wants all of you.
If your addicted to pornography, stop if your single or married , pornography only perverts your perspective and clouds your heart and mind, it has no place in your life again you must be willing to let God work in every area of your lives, there is always more than one issue going on, God wants all of you.
If your struggling with homosexuality, there is hope, and help. Your not forsaken, your not hated, you are loved by Christ, He died for your sins just as He did mine. Your lifestyle to God is no different than someone who is an adulterer, or fornicator, anyone who has sex outside of marriage as God see's it is in a lifestyle of sin, our only hope is in Christ Jesus.
God will only recognize marriage between a man and a woman, I do not care what these dollar store preachers say, the Bible , God's Holy word is clear. Jesus said this Mark 10:6-9 But from the beginning of creation, 'God made them male and female.' 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."
If you do not know Jesus as your personal Saviour, I urge right now to do so, He will not make you richer, your life easier, or solve all your financial woes, He will love you, never leave you or forsake you that is a promise God made, and God nailed His promise His only begotten son Jesus to the cross to take the punishment for our sins and God fulfilled that when Jesus rose again 3 days later.
In Christ.
Pastor Brian Kinnett
*If you have no idea on what it means to be saved, this will help. “For God so loved the world. that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him
should not perish, but have everlasting life.” – John 3:16
Hard questions don’t have easy answers, but they do have an answer. That answer is ultimately found in the God who created the universe and loves you unconditionally. How do you find that God? How do you reach Him? This is the Good News: God has come looking for you! He has reached out to you! Saying “Yes” to God begins with your desire to respond to His gracious Gift of Jesus Christ. Here are some ways to help you do just that. Discover for yourself life the way it was meant to be. Receive God’s Gift today!
First we must Admit that we need a right relationship with God.
Pride keeps us from doing some of the most important things in life. Don’t let your pride keep you from THE most important thing in this life and the next!
As the Scriptures say: “There is no one who always does what is right, not even one….” Romans 3:10, NCV All have sinned and are not good enough for God’s glory,… Romans 3:23, NCV
Second we must Believe: Believe that God’s Son Jesus Christ makes possible your having a right relationship with God.
There is nothing that you can do, no matter how good or great, to ever restore your relationship with God.
God was using Christ to restore his relationship with humanity. 2 Corinthians 5:19, NCV
Third we must Confess your sin to God and accept His forgiveness.
Everyone of us chooses to live our lives like we want to, taking charge, ignoring God, pleasing ourselves. That’s what separates us from God. That’s why we need His forgiveness. You can have forgiveness of your sins through Jesus. Acts 13:38, NCV
Fourth Dedicate yourself as a fully devoted follower of Christ.
Receiving God’s gift of forgiveness through Jesus Christ will set you in a direction exactly opposite of the one you’ve been going in because now you’re following Christ.
Jesus said to all of them, “If people want to follow me, they must give up the things they want. They must be willing to give up their lives daily to follow me.” Luke 9:23
Fifth Express your faith in Christ publicly.
What God does for you in His Son Jesus Christ is the greatest thing that will ever happen to you. It requires a clear confession that you have given Him your very life.
If you use your mouth to say, “Jesus is Lord,” and if you believe in your heart that God raised Jesus from the dead, you will be saved. Romans 10:9
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